i decided to focus on alienation while sick and how when people are in the hospital or they are dying, they are left alone with no family.
a resource that i had was my own life and how my family alienates others until that person is on very ill and in the hospital. Another source i looked at was the movie that we saw called near death. The part that struck me the most was the part when the elderly woman passed away in the hospital bed while her family was on their way to see her.
on the internet i researched alienation and it was always something about p.a.s which was parental alienation. I then saw something about karl Marx's theory and it spoke about how alienation is when we separate ourselves from the things that matter.
The way i carried out this project was that i went to go visit the member of my family that we alienate the most which was my aunt. The reason why we alienate her is unknown but it definitely has something to do with the fact that she is ill and so is her husband. It makes me think that we alienate them because theyare sick and we dont want to have that site around us but my family isnt like that. i guess i really don't know why we leave them out of family events. I actually enjoyed seeing her but it was very awkward for me because i was just sitting in her living room not really doing much. i did realize though that she didnt have any new things in her house and she still smiled. i wondered did her lack of knowledge on all the new things our family has gone through made her happier. She seems at peace witht he situation that she is in. she calls my grandma alot and it seems that she doesnt mind being alone. it gives her more time to be with her husbandand to relax. I think being alienated really isnt so bad afterall. MAybe she prefers it. I use to feel so bad for her and the fact that we dont visit her ad i still do feel bad but she seems to not mind.
i relaized and i learned from visitng my aunt that maybe alienation to some may be the worse feeling for some people but alienation may also bring some benefits as well such as tranquility and happiness. I feel tha being alienated is in some cases very positive and the best part of the day for people. on the other hand i learned that younger people do not like the feelin of alienation. One person i spoke to hated being alone and that person would always be sad and depressed. I realized that people who are alienated at younger ages seem to hate it and become depressed. As for older people they don't mind it because their whole life was spent having social interactions with others and this was their moment to enjoy being alone and just relaxed. So being alienated isn't a bad feeling.
This shows that when people are ill and elderly, they usually like to be alone. They also become more joyous and they learn to love life more.
this matters because it is imporant to realize that sometimes people need to be alone and it is not a bad thing. Also the reasons why we may alienate someone is because we feel ashamed or afraid to reconnect with someone. alienation can lead to happiness though because it can make someone do things that they want to do.
Matthew,
ReplyDeleteI think out of everyone in the class you spoke about the best topic, I believe alienation is a major part of our culture when dealing with the sick. It's one of those things in life that are right in our face, and we know it's their but we do such a good job ignoring the fact that we are alienating people on a daily basis that, it becomes second nature. Now here's I think why you're blog and topic is really important, everyone's blog all focused on the effects of knowing that someone we care about is so ill and can die is heart wrenching and when they die we get sad and try to remember them. At the same time when these people were and are alive, we try to avoid seeing them because we believe they want their space to enjoy their last moments, and when they die we hold a lot of regrets, and i believe most of that regret isn't because we wish that it was someone else, but mainly because we know that we didn't spend "enough time" with them, which is another way of saying we alienated them. Perfect job, perfect topic, perfect job.
-Rigel